Putting the past to rest
Sometimes one just has to face the fact that some relationships will never be great. Some you have to let go of, because if your friends don’t act like your friend..well then they aren’t. Sometimes you don’t act like a friend yourself and you have to realize that you may not be good for someone either. Other times you also have to just accept people as they are. They may not know that what they do annoys you, and in honesty they may have the best intentions in their heart.
I’ve been reflecting on this the past couple months. The turn of events were not exactly what I had always wanted in all cases, but I think I have grown from them.
People are too quick to judge someone worthless…and then don’t give credit where credit is due. I won’t mention names, but in the past I think one person was hard to get along with and in general was just annoying at times…but the truth is any one can be that way. Now it bothers me that people cannot accept the good deeds/intentions done. The past is the biggest inhibitor to the future. This is what stops people from changing. Not for the lack of want, but the lack of belief and support. It saddens me. I have been guilty of it too, and it’s true that some people never do change… but I do think that even in the worst person, there is some good too (however misguided).
Another truth is that we all do wrong in our lives. No life is without sin, it’s simply the amount in which we have. We just have to try to be good. It’s not that I don’t see what I have done in the past that was wrong or bad, but I see also that I have a chance to do better; to make someone else’s life better (be it a furry friend or person). I think that’s what matters.
We are all interconnected and when I do something nice or sweet for someone/thing else…perhaps it inspires more kindness in the world. It’s the random acts of kindness in life that makes the world a decent and pleasant place.
I know this is a long post, so if you don’t want to read, then just wait till my next post. I don’t want complaints about how long it is. Its my blog, not yours.
Examples of people who are kind:
My best friend’s mom has always been a kind person. She once told me that she was kind to me because she could be, and that she knew that when I could be kind to someone else and pass it on I would.
She would buy me clothing when my family really couldn’t afford it, which was really a godsend. My mom and dad tried, but sometimes we just couldn’t have the things we wanted. So my friend’s mom would take me shopping, and when I moved even bought me linens for my new home among other things. It’s a kindness I will never forget, and at some point I will pass on. She has done a lot of other kindnesses too over the years, but this is just an example.
Another example is pull from when I was 11 or 12. My mom’s vehicle broke down and it was something expensive that broke. I remember being really sad because my mom said we couldn’t afford a birthday party because of it. It was either pay the electricity or pay for a party. Obviously the electricity is more important. We were sitting in the repair shop waiting area at this point and an older lady was listening. She left and then shortly later we were called up to the desk about the bill. The person at the desk told us that someone else had paid the bill and that nothing was due. My mom was floored and about in tears. It was an unexpected kindness. My mom suspected it was the older lady and asked her. It was, but she wouldn’t give her name or tell us how to repay it.
Another example was one Christmas when we were having problems with money again and couldn’t afford a nice dinner. Someone came over when we weren’t home with a feast. Some deer, stuffing, and some other good food goodies for Christmas. We didn’t starve that year, which was wonderful.
It’s these kindnesses that I have experienced that make me want to pass is on. I don’t know if any of you all (my readers, however few you are) have seen the movie pay it forward. It’s a great movie with a basis of kindness. I wish that was the way the world was… one that we actually care about what happens to the homeless, where we try better not just our lives, but those people around us too.
These thoughts have been mulling around in my head lately… half way wishing I could do more in the world… and half way just sad that people are so self centered. What happened to kindness and compassion?